As the marriage apocalypse warrior (also known as the awesome, differentiating, behavior-changing ninja), I help couples to fight against behaviors that predict the end: (left to right) contempt, defensiveness, criticism, and stonewalling.
Three of the top skills of a value driven professional—a person who excels in their workplace—are: they know how to de escalate drama; they know how to accept feedback as a gift, and they know the right way to engage in conflict (according to Donald Miller in his book Business Made Simple). And you know what? Those are skills that I teach in my coaching and in my Gottman Bringing Baby Home classes. They're also skills that make for a great parent and that help us to have a more peaceful, nurturing postpartum period.
It's the end of January. What goals do you have for yourself for 2019? How are your resolutions coming along? Do you need to hit a re-set button?
For inspiration, check out this Thai Life Insurance commercial.
For ideas on how to build positive habits, check out The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do In Life and In Business by Charles Duhigg.
Our goal this month is to improve our skills at asking open ended questions, so that we can get to know one another over time. This week we are getting to know the things that our partner hopes and imagines (the "what if's". Here are some questions to get you started:
Check out the Gottman Card Decks app for more.
Or improve your skills at Bringing Baby Home on October 13-14.
Our goal this month is to improve our skills at asking open ended questions, so that we can get to know one another over time. This week we are getting to know each other's past. Here are some questions to get you started:
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