As the marriage apocalypse warrior (also known as the awesome, differentiating, behavior-changing ninja), I help couples to fight against behaviors that predict the end: (left to right) contempt, defensiveness, criticism, and stonewalling.
Three of the top skills of a value driven professional—a person who excels in their workplace—are: they know how to de escalate drama; they know how to accept feedback as a gift, and they know the right way to engage in conflict (according to Donald Miller in his book Business Made Simple). And you know what? Those are skills that I teach in my coaching and in my Gottman Bringing Baby Home classes. They're also skills that make for a great parent and that help us to have a more peaceful, nurturing postpartum period.
“An expectant mother’s play can lower her stress levels and help lessen the discomforts of pregnancy, but that playfulness can also help preform the mind-set of the baby inside her.”
Excerpt From
Play
Stuart Brown, M.D. & Christopher Vaughan
https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/play/id357998110?mt=11
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Come back January 2nd after 2 PM to learn more about the January "Team Challenge."
How we respond to invitations to play impacts our family relationships. Check out this article from the Gottman Institute blog about responding to bids.
A chart representing ways that children use symbolic play at different ages, from the California Department of Education.
The Hanen Centre is a nonprofit organization from Canada that helps to promote language, social and literacy skills in young children.
Here the Hanen Centre presents a great article on the stages and importance of pretend play.
For more information on what executive functioning is, check out this article.
Resources from Zero To Three about how play skills develop, as well as toys and activities at different ages.
Check out this download on "The Power of Play" from Zero To Three.
Check out these links for articles from Zero To Three on play at different ages:
Learning through play: birth-12 months
Tips on playing with babies and toddlers
Children generally learn to play with blocks in a sequence.
Check out this PDF from the Montana State Library about the stages of block play.
At 17 months, this little girl is stacking and making block towers.
This video highlights all the things that this young child is learning when playing with blocks.
I also loved this quote on block play: "Unlike toys that have limited use or can be play with in only one way, open-ended toys and play-things can be used in diverse ways and with different levels of proficiency. Blocks, for example, can be used to stack, load in a wagon, build a tower, clap to music, or symbolically represent a person, vehicle, animal, or railroad track. Blocks are enjoyed differently at different ages as play behaviors and capabilities change over time. Blocks have an enduring quality essential to play that supports cognitive and language development at all ages. Think about it: Architects and engineers use blocks to create models of their proposed structures. By contrast, a wind-up mechanical or electronic toy is of little value if all one can do with it is watch it "perform," or if its use requires adult assistance" (Puckett & Black et al., 2009, p. 302).
Peekaboo is a classic game that is not only good fun but is also a great way to teach object permanence and attention skills and to potentially reduce separation anxiety.
Check out some fun examples:
Early on: Mom moves the cloth
Then baby moves the cloth.
Fun with patterns: This grandma is teaching beginning patterns by popping out from one side to the other.
Ask children get more skilled with peekaboo, they can start to play Hide and Seek!
The classic video from the Gottman Institute about family play. This video changed the way that I think about family play.
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